Should I let my soon to be wife have an orgasm? (serious religious based question) adults only?
My fiancee is the purest woman I know and she is so beautiful. She is 26 years old never had an orgasm except in her dreams and is a virgin, never seen porn or anything like that. I believe that because of this, she recieves dreams in which God tells her what she needs to do. On the phone last night she says she can’t control her feelings for me anymore and wanted to touch herself. I said she could as long as she didn’t have an orgasm and she said that she was saving that for me. I am just afraid her feelings are getting too strong and she will ask me if she can have an orgasm and ofcourse I love her but at this point I am going to say no because this might be against God’s will since we aren’t married and could stop God from talking to her in her dreams. To me this is her special gift and link it to her purity and chastity. Does this make sense? Anyone know anything more about this kind of thing?
LOL?? what is so funny about this question??
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22 responses so far ↓
1 Pitch Fork // Dec 2, 2008 at 2:20 am
LOL. wait until your married.
2 They call me The Professor // Dec 2, 2008 at 2:20 am
Lust of any kind is WRONG.
3 dawn® // Dec 2, 2008 at 2:20 am
i think its healthier for a relationship to let your partner do that for you ..
4 AMERICANZILLA // Dec 2, 2008 at 2:20 am
That depends. Has she been weaned from the breast yet?
5 Bibigirl // Dec 2, 2008 at 2:20 am
I think you need to hurry up and marry her. What are you waiting for?
6 practicalwizard // Dec 2, 2008 at 2:20 am
I honestly don’t think having an orgasm is a sin. The only thing the bible addresses is sex between people.
7 Gypsy // Dec 2, 2008 at 2:20 am
I smell troll…
At least I hope you’re just trolling. I hate to think that any woman would be so weak and brain-washed as to ask a man’s permission to have an orgasm.
8 Panda Bear // Dec 2, 2008 at 2:20 am
you have got to be a troll.
That is some funny shit.
Cant belive she actaully asked for your permission.
9 The Reverend Soleil // Dec 2, 2008 at 2:20 am
Y’know…it’s not like she’s going to RUN OUT of orgasms…
10 haysoos2 // Dec 2, 2008 at 2:20 am
Ooo… orgasm denial is kinky.
Definitely make her wait until after the wedding. Sounds like you may have the beginnings of a really hot B/D relationship building there.
Good luck to both of you!
11 bobbylips // Dec 2, 2008 at 2:20 am
You say…I am going to say no…you have already answered your question.
12 PeteFTW // Dec 2, 2008 at 2:20 am
this is a great example of how stupid religious dogma is
13 Skepticat (EAC Operative) // Dec 2, 2008 at 2:20 am
If you really want to follow the New Testament, you should both forget about sex and marriage and focus solely on the kingdom.
Now, back to the real world…
Orgasms aren’t evil. The Bible says nothing against masturbation.
14 Shelley L // Dec 2, 2008 at 2:20 am
Marry the girl and let her come. I just do not understand this level of religious BS. God doesn’t care if your fiance has an orgasm or not. Don’t you think God is too busy to worry about this? If you are committed to her and you love her, then be with her. There is no sin in giving each other pleasure. Get over your piety and live your life.
15 Acid Zebra // Dec 2, 2008 at 2:20 am
She also has been lying through her teeth.
16 Sunshine Rainbow Raph // Dec 2, 2008 at 2:20 am
Please tell her to wait, it will be so worth it. She will just regret masturbating. She will never regret saving her orgasm fro you.
17 Dan W // Dec 2, 2008 at 2:20 am
God invented the orgasm!
18 Rosemonster // Dec 2, 2008 at 2:20 am
It is not your place to LET her have an orgasm. It is her body and her choice - you need to step back here. A woman’s natural instinct for desire cannot be denied (could you deny your “manhood” if she demanded it). If she has a special gift of communication with higher powers, why in the world would you think an orgasm would change that? You would really have to believe that sex is dirty - and how can a process created by God by which new life enters this earth be anything but sacred? Sex is God’s gift to us - it’s supposed to feel good - stop throwing this beautiful gift back in his face. If you love your woman - you need return what you have taken from her… her ability to feel in control of her own body.
19 Kozona // Dec 2, 2008 at 2:20 am
Many religions (God) have tried to even control the most intimate between 2 person. It was always a personal choice and will always be. This is nature and it is natural. Do not go against natural laws. Do not feel guilty in any way for the decision you take. The best is to feel great and awsome for the both of yous..
20 Dr. Socks // Dec 2, 2008 at 2:20 am
Please don’t skip this because of the length __________vvvvvvvv
It’s funny because people who aren’t hard line religious understand that lust and masturbation and sex are perfectly normal human things.
People have been touching themselves and bonking since the dawn of time - We wouldn’t be here if we didn’t have inbuilt sex drives.
If you’re going to get married for certain, it shouldn’t matter whether you have sex now or then - Either way, you’re going to get married. It says in the Bible that a man must marry any woman he sleeps with.
Either way, Marriage in gods eyes is the “Lesser of two evils” - “It is better to be married than to burn with lust” (Paul, I think). So marriage is STILL wrong in gods eyes.
“Purity” has nothing to do with Chastity - Purity of heart comes from honesty and striving for excellence and human benevolence in all things (Greek principle of “Arete” and Confucian thought, both similair).
As a Confucian, I belief in spreading human kindness and benevolence as a moral duty. Doing that in this case would mean allowing your future wife happiness, and what will make her happy is her feeling that what she wants to do is ok and normal and not a sin ( I don’t belief in sin, but hey ho ).
If you want for your future wifes happiness, say yes.
If you want to instead stay true to god, reject your fiancee, and stay a bachelor, and life unhappily ever after, because the christian god believes that human emotions are evil. (See above answerer “Lust is wrong” what nonsense).
In a worst case (or best case, depending on whether the observer believes in god or not) scenario, your fiancee could get depressed about you not wanting her to pleasure herself while thinking of you, and eventually be driven to finding somone else or turning against god.
From a practical viewpoint, I think you should become comfortable with having sex with each other now, so sexual frustration doesn’t put either of you off of marriage, or damage your marriage by nervousness and lack of experience in lovemaking, frankly put. Nervousness, uptightness, and believing what you are doing is wrong (When it isn’t) will mean depression and upset and an unhappy marriage.
Best of luck, Samuel Socks
21 boerpak // Dec 2, 2008 at 2:20 am
i dont think so. she must wait for marriage. if she cant wait then you have to get married asap.
22 Loosey B.O. ™ // Dec 2, 2008 at 2:20 am
There are two fundamental principles you need to understand to get “in good” with God.
1. Anything that feels good, DON’T DO IT.
2. Stupidity GOOD, enlightenment BAD.
Sounds like you’re with the program. Good job.
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