I would like a man’s opinion on my situation, if possible…I am 25 and he is 26 (figured I’d give that detail..) but anyway, sometimes my boyfriend seems like he is trying so hard to have an orgasm and can’t. Yet other times it doesn’t take long at all…But what’s confusing is even when he doesn’t have an orgasm it seems like he is still really enjoying it…Is there something more I can be doing for him to make it easier for him to orgasm? Is he trying too hard? It’s weird for me to ask this, but it’s something that bothers me and I am too shy to ask him what’s up…Please help?
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9 responses so far ↓
1 kennedymarcy14 // Dec 2, 2008 at 11:20 am
why dont yout alk to a therapist about this
2 Princess // Dec 2, 2008 at 11:20 am
yes, you re right, he just takes his time to enjoy…and when it happens too quickly its because he cant hold it anymore. you are doing nothing wrong…trust your relationship and talk to him
3 John M // Dec 2, 2008 at 11:20 am
it could be that or it could be that he did himself that day. if he did himself before you get to him it may take longer for him and yes even if he doesn’t orgasm he can still enjoy it
4 Bub // Dec 2, 2008 at 11:20 am
He may have problems on his mind sometimes that affect his performance. Ask him. If you are having sex, what is there to be shy about? He may want something from you that you aren’t doing or he may be trying to please you first. Just ask. Peace.
5 Jerome // Dec 2, 2008 at 11:20 am
Ole boy may have learned the Techniques of Multiple Male Orgasms, some Tantric Sex, Tao, and Zen Sex tehniques.
With these conquests, he’ll be able to enjoy sex, the feeling of an orgam Without Ejaculating.
If so, hats off to him.
6 Yogi // Dec 2, 2008 at 11:20 am
Well I don’t think you are doing really anything wrong. Something you can try here(I know you do not know when he will have one fast or slow)but try this. when he has one fast and you fool around a little then get him all worked up again and see if he can have another one. It might be 15 minutes later or tow hours later but see what happens. If he has trouble then you might just have your answer. I;m not saying he is mess around on you but he could be taken care of it himself before hand, not sure if he will be lucky or not and unloads the gun and gets lucky at the same time. Most guys can bust one out and then have to wait a while if they have more than one a day and that myth about 7 time in one day is unreal if they do they must have been working up to it for some time.
7 Derek B // Dec 2, 2008 at 11:20 am
He might be masterbating. and it also depends on how much sex you two are enjoying. males have a sort of resting period between orgasms and the closer the orgasms are together the harder it will be to get one. tell him to goto the bathroom before you two start. If he has to urinate or his blatter is full it can cause him not to orgasm also. Talk to him about it and see what he likes you doing. See what turns him on the most. try enjoying it for yourself the longer he lasts the more pleasure for you
hope this helps
8 jamman // Dec 2, 2008 at 11:20 am
Does he have a weight problem or live an unhealthy lifestyle? I can’t understand it. Guys that young usually have to try really hard to not orgasm. Don’t help him out, he is probably trying his hardest to go the distance. He is probably thinking about dead kittens and burning bunnies just to keep from orgasming lol. Also, if you catch him right after he umm, has a onesome with himself, he might have a little more stamina.
9 Connor // Dec 2, 2008 at 11:20 am
Well if he’s circumcised that could be the problem.
I was cut at birth and am restoring my foreskin and now that I have much more sensitivity in my penis I don’t have to try to have an orgasm. It just comes naturaly.
So he can look into that if he’s circumcised.
There really isn’t much you or he can do about it. If he’s still enjoying it there isn’t anything you can do to speed things up. Because if he’s enjoying it then trying to make him enjoy it more won’t help because he already is having a good time. So the problem isn’t him not enjoying it. He probably just has reduced sensitivity in that area.
It could be because he’s wearing a condom too. That will make a guy take longer. If this might be the issue make sure you both go get tested before having away with the condom.
Try going out and getting different lubes.
Try the KY yours and mine. I hear that works REALLY well. I haven’t been able to try it myself tho.
Try geting tingling lubes or lubes that increase blood flow to were ever the lube is applied. Those might help a little.
Those will give him a new sensation that he might enjoy.
But if the delayed ejaculation is caused by lack of sensitivity then there isn’t much either of you can do unfortunatly.
Go online and look up delayed ejaculation and see if that kind of fits what’s happening with your boyfriend. If it does try making an appointment with a family doctor. Some medications can make it difficult to orgasm.
-Connor
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