Really speaking, I asked this question to few women. It seemed they could not explain.
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Can someone tell me what the women feel during orgasm. This is a genuine querry not a joke pl.?
August 22nd, 2008 · 4 Comments
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1 Binky // Aug 22, 2008 at 6:50 am
everybody is different so none of these answers are gonna be the same, but when i have a 'light' orgasm its (ok reeeeeeaaallllllllyy hard to explain) but sometimes when i think i am done, my hubby will linger and its like a door opens, i feel as if i am being opened up in every sense of the word and i just lose the ability to think, completely lost in the moment, however long it lasts!!!!its like i am lying prone and open at the start of a long and winding, warm wet road that is my orgasm..but like i said, we're all different.
2 shewolfe25 // Aug 22, 2008 at 6:50 am
well its starts off with a feeling of warmth building in my pelvis, that spreads through my whole body. I lose all sense of being inside a body (like a super nova expanding)and all ability to think i just feel the energy expanding. i gradually gain sense of my self back after the climax peaks but i can feel the blood pumping through all my veins for ages after.
3 aditya m // Aug 22, 2008 at 6:50 am
Definition: Anorgasmia is an inability to reach orgasm and is thought to occur in about 10% of women. Anorgasmia may be either primary (the woman has never been able to reach an orgasm by any means) or secondary (an orgasm was experienced at some point in the past). It may also be global (orgasm is not experienced by any means) or situational (orgasm may be experienced in certain sexual situations but not others; for example, with manual stimulation but not with intercourse).
Return to topSome Myths Regarding Female Orgasms
There are several myths regarding orgasm. These myths can sometimes cause problems for women and their partners.
Myth
An orgasm is always an earth-moving experience and there is something wrong with a woman if she is unable to reach orgasm.
Fact
Some women have orgasms and don’t know it. Some women do not experience orgasm in the sense of feeling their pelvic floor muscles contract. They do however reach a peak of arousal after which they feel very relaxed and contented, the same feelings other women experience after orgasm. By contrast, women who get very aroused and do not experience orgasm will sometimes feel "nervous" or "edgy" or even an aching discomfort in their pelvis.
Myth
"Normal" women reach orgasm through intercourse.
Fact
Only about a third of women experience orgasm regularly during intercourse. A third can reach orgasm with intercourse but need extra stimulation. A third never achieve orgasm during intercourse but can by manual and oral stimulation. Having orgasms by means other than intercourse is a normal variation of female sexuality. In the past, people thought that "mature" women had their orgasms with intercourse; you will sometimes run across an older book that has this view. However, laboratory studies in the 1960’s showed that an orgasm is an orgasm no matter which way you obtain it. How a woman reaches an orgasm has nothing to do with her mental health or emotional maturity.
Myth
Inability to reach orgasm, or anorgasmia means a woman is "frigid" or that there is something seriously wrong with her or her relationship.
Fact
Women who were able to have orgasms in the past but can no longer do so may be suffering from a medical problem or a side effect from medication.
Fact
Women who have never had an orgasm may never have learned what type and duration of stimulation they need.
Myth
If a woman cannot reach orgasm, then her partner is not a skillful lover.
Fact
While there are many ways a loving partner can help a woman reach orgasm, in the end, a woman is responsible for her own sexual pleasure. That does not mean her partner should not be involved. Communication between partners is very important. It is up to the woman to inform her partner her likes and dislikes in their love making.
Myth
A woman has to have an orgasm in order to enjoy sex. This myth seems to be more common among men than among women.
Fact
Many women enjoy the closeness and physical intimacy of sex and are satisfied even if they do not, or do not always, have an orgasm.
Return to topWhat can you do?
Relax
It is possible to try too hard. Focus on enjoying the process, not on whether or not you will have an orgasm.
Communicate
Communicate with your partner your preferences when it comes to sex. Your partner cannot read your mind.
Encourage
If you or your partner are doing something pleasurable, encourage your mate to continue.
Enjoy
Learn to enjoy and feel comfortable with your sexuality. Your current inability to have an orgasm is not a reflection of your femininity, your psychological or emotional health. Putting yourself down just makes it that much more difficult.
Fantasize
Some women have trouble concentrating during sex. If that is the case, you may wish to fantasize, i.e., thinking about something sexual may excite you and may reduce negative emotions. If you feel that you are very close to achieving an orgasm, alternate tightening and relaxing your pelvic floor muscles. This may sometimes trigger a real orgasm.
Arouse
For some couples, love making ends once the man ejaculates. Often, at this point the woman is very aroused. If this is the case, you might ask your partner to continue stimulating you with his hands or his mouth once he is finished. Some women feel uncomfortable doing this, thinking that this would be selfish or that their partner would be bored. In fact, your partner may enjoy giving you pleasure. Rather than being selfish, you are giving your partner the chance to please you.
Return to topWhat about Vibrators?
Vibrators, either plug-in or cordless, supply more intense stimulation than can be obtained with either intercourse or manual stimulation. They can be especially helpful if you have an illness that makes it hard to reach orgasm, such as multiple sclerosis. They can be used by you or together with your partner as part of your love making.
Return to topSuggested Books
There are several good books available with "exercises" to help you reach orgasm. These usually focus on learning to have an orgasm by yourself and then, once you know the desired manner and amount of stimulation you need, you can teach your partner how to please you. It can also be helpful for your partner to read one of these books. Women of some religious faiths may sometimes feel that self-stimulation, or masturbation, is wrong. Others of the same faith feel that since the long-term goal is to improve the relationship then self-stimulation is okay in the short term.
For Yourself: The Fulfillment of Female Sexuality: by Lonnie Barbach. Written over 20 years ago by a woman who ran groups for pre-orgasmic women, this book has a lot of personal stories. Women like it because they see they are not alone and they can usually identify with one or other of the stories.
Becoming Orgasmic: by Julie Hieman and J. LoPiccolo. A bit more clinical than the previous book, it also has exercises to help a woman think about where she learned her ideas about sex and whether these might not be realistic.
The Gift of Sex: by Cliff and Joyce Penner. Written by a Christian couple, this is a very frank and helpful book, especially for women who find some of the suggestions or assumptions in "secular" books objectionable.
L’orgasme au féminin; Christine L’Heureux, Montréal: L’Aurore, 1979.
If none of the books or suggestions are helpful, you might consider asking for referral to a sex therapist or psychologist specializing in treating sexual difficulties.
4 nalaredneb // Aug 22, 2008 at 6:50 am
Funny Answers.
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